I used to have a problem:
I believed everything that the fear voices in my head told me. I thought that the fear voices were my own voice. I didn’t know that there was another voice – a gentler one – inside my head that spoke kind and truthful words that encouraged me and guided me toward my destiny. I couldn’t hear this voice because the fear voice was so loud.
I never thought to question fear when it told me that I was too shy, or too awkward, too tall, not smart enough, not thin enough, not outgoing enough. I believed it ALL, and I thought that I just had to make due with the hand that I’d been dealt. I thought that others – others who were out there doing the things that I longed to do – were just lucky or talented. I assumed that they didn’t have these same fears that I had. I assumed that they had it all figured out from the very beginning and they were just breezing through their charmed lives.
Now I know the truth.
Now, when I see others out there doing big things, I know that they have learned to face their fears. Because we ALL have these same fears. We all have the roar of self doubt and negativity running through our heads 24/7. But, as I started to learn to listen to the other, gentler voice, I realized that just because the fear voice is shouting constantly, I DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN TO IT. I don’t believe everything I read on the internet do I? Well, I don’t have to believe everything that my fear voice tells me either. The more that I listened for my gentler voice, the louder and clearer it became. And I realized over time that the fear voices were just scared and hurt parts of me. So I learned to look at them, and pay attention to where they came from and what they were trying to tell me. And quite often, just accepting them and letting them be there without blame or resistance helped them loosen their grip, and soften their voices.
I don’t believe that there is such a thing as “No fear”. That seems unattainable to me. A more appropriate sentiment would be “with fear” or even better “despite fear”. That’s how I have chosen to live my life. I have made a conscious decision to pursue my heart’s desires despite the fear that I feel. Let me tell you, this is hard sometimes. And even after facing certain fears multiple times, they do not just go away. Apparently this is a lifelong commitment. It’s a way of life. But in my opinion, it’s the only way.
This is what is in my heart to share here on my blog. That is why I started Fearless Friday newsletters. I realized that maybe I'm not the only one facing these fear voices, maybe I'm not the only one stuck in patterns of fear and self-doubt. Maybe others need to hear the message that their fear voice is not their true voice. Maybe others could benefit from a reminder each week that we must continuously face our fears in order to be happy and achieve our higher purpose in this life.
To support this theme of facing fear and embracing creativity in our lives, I've assembled the following manifesto.
My Fearless Manifesto
1. I commit to feeling my fears and acting anyway.
2. I will live my life by FOLLOWING LOVE, rather than AVOIDING FEAR.
3. I will not beat myself up for lacking the ability or enthusiasm to do things that are not in my nature.
4. I will cultivate and practice self-love in all areas of my life. I will learn to answer Yes! to the question: do you really love yourself.
5. I will forgive myself and know that I did the best I could with what I knew at the time.
6. I will look for and acknowledge the best in others.
7. If I can't answer with a genuine "Hell, YES!", then the answer is "no".
8. I must make an effort to connect with someone I love every single day. I have a reclusive side, and left to my own devices, I'll sit in my office and read and write and analyze my existence 'till the end of time. I NEED to connect with others, even when I don't really feel like it.
9. I will make time for the activities in life that feed my soul and I will build my life around those things.
10. I will help others by sharing my gifts, talents and resources. I will not hide what I have to offer those around me; I will give of myself freely. I will let my light shine.
Till next time,
© Haley McManigal 2016
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