I used to have a problem:
I believed everything that the fear voices in my head told me. I thought that the fear voices were my own voice. I didn’t know that there was another voice – a gentler one – inside my head that spoke kind and truthful words that encouraged me and guided me toward my destiny. I couldn’t hear this voice because the fear voice was so loud.
I never thought to question fear when it told me that I was too shy, or too awkward, too tall, not smart enough, not thin enough, not outgoing enough. I believed it ALL, and I thought that I just had to make due with the hand that I’d been dealt. I thought that others – others who were out there doing the things that I longed to do – were just lucky or talented. I assumed that they didn’t have these same fears that I had. I assumed that they had it all figured out from the very beginning and they were just breezing through their charmed lives.
Now I know the truth.
Now, when I see others out there doing big things, I know that they have learned to face their fears. Because we ALL have these same fears. We all have the roar of self doubt and negativity running through our heads 24/7. But, as I started to learn to listen to the other, gentler voice, I realized that just because the fear voice is shouting constantly, I DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN TO IT. I don’t believe everything I read on the internet do I? Well, I don’t have to believe everything that my fear voice tells me either. The more that I listened for my gentler voice, the louder and clearer it became. And I realized over time that the fear voices were just scared and hurt parts of me. So I learned to look at them, and pay attention to where they came from and what they were trying to tell me. And quite often, just accepting them and letting them be there without blame or resistance helped them loosen their grip, and soften their voices.
I don’t believe that there is such a thing as “No fear”. That seems unattainable to me. A more appropriate sentiment would be “with fear” or even better “despite fear”. That’s how I have chosen to live my life. I have made a conscious decision to pursue my heart’s desires despite the fear that I feel. Let me tell you, this is hard sometimes. And even after facing certain fears multiple times, they do not just go away. Apparently this is a lifelong commitment. It’s a way of life. But in my opinion, it’s the only way.
This is what Fearless Friday is all about. I realized that maybe I'm not the only one facing these fear voices, maybe I'm not the only one stuck in patterns of fear and self-doubt. Maybe others need to hear the message that their fear voice is not their true voice. Maybe others could benefit from a reminder each week that we must continuously face our fears in order to be happy and achieve our higher purpose in this life.
So I decided to take action. Every Friday, I send out inspiration, resources, and encouragement in a newsletter. This newsletter is intended to help you on your own fear facing journey. These resources are things that I find useful or inspiring or funny and want to share with you. It may include videos, images, book passages, quotes, and more. We all need support and encouragement when we’re out there in the world doing big things. Facing our fears is HARD work, and I want to help you through it. Together, we can do this!
I'd love to hear from you. What fears will you face today or this weekend? What steps will you take to follow your dreams despite your fears?
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